Terri Said, “I’ll never be able to get the top spot here. Pursuing goals like that just isn’t part of where I come from.”
Yikes! What a limiting statement to have about yourself and your abilities. And it certainly caused an abrupt change in our performance coaching conversation.
Of course Terri could get the top spot. There are no guarantees, but there are steps she can take every day to increase the probability of that happening. To position herself for success however she defines it.
But if her starting point is a deep-seated believe that she can’t or won’t ever be able to because of where she comes from, she’s pretty much dead in the water before taking the first step.
Building on Where We’re From
We all come from somewhere. We all have many pluses and minuses in our background. Family, friends, health, nationality and race, beliefs, finances, language, education, contacts and a thousand other factors. All are the foundation points from which we jump forward – that is, if we choose to jump.
Here are two of my favorite quotes on this topic. Both frame this issue with great clarity and precision.
First, from Brendon Burchard at his High Performance Academy seminar I attended in the spring of 2015:
Your background is your starting point. No more or less.
The second quote from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer has traveled with me for many years:
Your past is not your future – unless you want it to be.
Two great insights from two great thought leaders. Brendon is young and energetic. One of the great motivators and influencers of our age. Dr. Dyer – who had more influence on my thinking than any other human except my parents – passed on in late 2015. But not before leaving us with the wisdom of the ages.
If you’re giving me the honor of reading my articles or attending my Webinars or live events, I’m giving you a hard shove right now to invest a few precious moments of Internet research on both of these interesting men.
Your Call To Action
Let’s pledge together to draw a line in our lives that distinguishes the before, the now, and the yet to be.
Let’s acknowledge and celebrate our past as the foundation for future success.
Let’s take stock of where we are right now: our strengths, weaknesses, bright spots and blind spots.
Let’s leave behind once and for all the limiting beliefs and distracting habits that draw us in like quicksand and do nothing more than hold us back.
Then let’s choose to carry forward the positive habits, beliefs and other factors from our past that will serve us in the future as we pursue our goals.
One last quote as a tribute to Dr. Dyer:
“If you focus on what’s always been, it will always be.
Focus instead on what could be.”
Let’s explore ‘what could be’ together. Let me know how I can help.
John J. Hall, CPA, is an author, speaker and results expert who presents around the world at conventions, corporate meetings and association events. Throughout his 38-year career as a business consultant, corporate executive and professional speaker, John has helped organizations and individuals achieve measurable results. He inspires audience members in corporations, not-for-profit organizations and professional associations to step up, take action and “do what you can.”